the wrong massage forum - yuk

[enci2005]

I was just browsing the internet to see what massage therapists are in my local area. I stumbled upon a forum where guys discuss their massage experiences with ladies who basically provide extras. These guys are looking for a full massage session that ends with HR ( I don't want to spell it out as google search may direct people here). Some of the places were naturist & tantric and some places had proper therapy treatment rooms with a massage couch. I know that I should not be surprised as we know it goes on but it made me feel yucky.

 

[trichomes]

Essence I know what you mean. I did some research on-line about massage in my local area and some of the stuff I found made my hair stand on end !!!

Some of the reviews by customers for some of the businessess seemed to contain coded messages about what extras were on offer.

Yuk, yuk, yuk

 

[risitos17]

Hi guys,

Is this a forum which the guys have a professional massage followed by extra services or are they just using the word 'massage' ? This is quite concerning if it is a professional massage carried out by professional therapists followed by other services.

The more I hear/read the more I am sure I will stick with my decision on female clients only once I qualify.

 

[Abbita]

Hi Guys,

This is a recurring issue that will not go away. I've been a female therapist for 13yrs. I've done hotel visiting, home visits, worked abroad and clinic work. I have always worked on men and found the following works;Hotel visiting lends itself to sexual behaviour due to the nature of hotels the most common place for unwanted suggestions.I've had no problems in clinic.Home visits - generally people don't poo on their own doorsteps - no unwanted attention here either.My recipe for success that I've found when dealing with men is the following;Be professional and boundaried - uniform and business attitude.Check your own energy - "Do you want a man to find you attractive to boost your ego? If so, then you're unconsciously asking for attention"Do you believe all men are sleazy and will try it on eventually? - Like attracts like. I've not found this to be true.I've found men respond to straight talking without fluffy new age speak.I've had my fair share of calls which I put it straight in a direct non-aggressive or offended manner - "I'm strictly therapeutic and if you'd like HR or a BJ (yes I say it to them) then I suggest you look for an escort or prostitute". I usually get an apology and I stress that they need to be clear with their communication and their needs to save any embarrassment or offence.

This issue is not going to go away, we as a profession are stuck with it. We might just need to change how we deal with it.

I have a substantial male client list who are courteous, respectful and very loyal. I wouldn't have such a thriving practice if I left out 50% of the populations simply because of a few silly calls.

Cheers, Sue

 

[Cal]

Fantastic advice Sue thanks

love Lou xxx

 

[Joe E]

I think Sue is spot on.

 

[Phapydayfathe]

I believe the guys are having a massage but not from a professionally trained therapist. However when I've looked on Gumtree a few therapists there claim to be ITEC trained but their ads look dodgy.

As a massage therapist I have no concerns with massaging male clients.Some of my male clients will send their wives or girlfriends for a treatment with me. I work in a clinic and only on one occasion did a guy ask for somethung more at the end.

Sue said some good things in her post. I am always professional with my clients and I don't assume they are looking for more than massage. I've not yet had to deal with dodgy phone calls but I will be ready for them and straight to the point about what I don't do.