I am out

[boeing707]

Before I start, I want to make it clear this isn't a morality piece, nor do I mean to influence anyone else, or to somehow make anyone feel less about themselves. Because that would be hypocritical and that's not me. This is just my recent story, that's all it is. But yes as the title of the post says, I am out, done with visiting massage parlors.

Here is what started it. Late-December I went to a massage place. Don't ask me where or names because that isn't the point, and I won't share. The girl turned out to be a Chinese foreign student at an Ontario college and young, early 20s, and pretty. After the massage, she asked if I wanted sex and I said yes. So she undressed and was standing there naked. And I couldn't do it, she could have been my daughter standing there. Just felt incredibly sorry all of a sudden. So I paid her and we just chatted for a bit and I left. I'm sure she is working still and most probably she's not nearly as bothered about it, as I was.

But since than, I have stopped, I got fed up with myself. Not just what happened with that girl, but also this never ending up and down cycle of having fun for an hour, go home, and than the itch starts again, until the next visit. I'm much more busy with hobbies, started going out Saturday nights, and generally feeling a lot happier. Will I go back ? Like any addiction, it always will linger. But I have not smoked in 25 years so perhaps this isn't so difficult after all.

 

[darknight5611]

i feel you brother
this shit gets boring after a while
the industry has gone to shits
the girls aint like they used to be

 

[Sajam Enjoyer]

i feel you brother
this shit gets boring after a while
the industry has gone to shits
the girls aint like they used to be

I do not think that was the OP's message here

 

[darknight5611]

well this entire industry has gone to shit
too many places that are garbage and lack of high end talent

 

[coffeemate]

Go see some milfs instead ? Lot of hot ones out there

 

[Wu-Tang-Lan]

Not sure that I want to venture into this industry anyway, I've signed up here to get the lowdown so to speak, some of the comments, including one above creep me out with young innocent women that are possibly forced into this

 

[not impressed]

Not sure that I want to venture into this industry anyway, I've signed up here to get the lowdown so to speak, some of the comments, including one above creep me out with young innocent women that are possibly forced into this

And older women, once the money drops below their lifestyle requirements, so does their morals and promoters then cash in

 

[darknight5611]

what older women?
majority can barely take a pounding, cant handle big dicks, complain too much, are worn out and have too many miles on their body.

City is cooked.

 

[sinistarglobal]

Not sure that I want to venture into this industry anyway, I've signed up here to get the lowdown so to speak, some of the comments, including one above creep me out with young innocent women that are possibly forced into this

And older women, once the money drops below their lifestyle requirements, so does their morals and promoters then cash in

This would bother me very much if I knew/felt a girl was forced into this. I have stayed away from a couple places where this has been suggested....
However, I have met many who are not... They make great money (better than many of us), some really enjoy it.
Ask some of the girls how hard they had to work for a fraction of the money back home.

I think the one's who truly hate the work leave and find something else to do. They can only pull off the act for so long.

 

[VinnyBulbarino]

Before I start, I want to make it clear this isn't a morality piece, nor do I mean to influence anyone else, or to somehow make anyone feel less about themselves. Because that would be hypocritical and that's not me. This is just my recent story, that's all it is. But yes as the title of the post says, I am out, done with visiting massage parlors.

Here is what started it. Late-December I went to a massage place. Don't ask me where or names because that isn't the point, and I won't share. The girl turned out to be a Chinese foreign student at an Ontario college and young, early 20s, and pretty. After the massage, she asked if I wanted sex and I said yes. So she undressed and was standing there naked. And I couldn't do it, she could have been my daughter standing there. Just felt incredibly sorry all of a sudden. So I paid her and we just chatted for a bit and I left. I'm sure she is working still and most probably she's not nearly as bothered about it, as I was.

But since than, I have stopped, I got fed up with myself. Not just what happened with that girl, but also this never ending up and down cycle of having fun for an hour, go home, and than the itch starts again, until the next visit. I'm much more busy with hobbies, started going out Saturday nights, and generally feeling a lot happier. Will I go back ? Like any addiction, it always will linger. But I have not smoked in 25 years so perhaps this isn't so difficult after all.

Thanks for sharing Brother. I needed to read this, as I’ve also been having some mixed feelings towards the hobby. Hobbying should be a fun pastime, when there is extra time and money. But I find myself going more frequently, trying to find the next best thing. No matter how many unicorns we encounter, there seems to be this need to find the next one.

 

[Wu-Tang-Lan]

Thanks for sharing Brother. I needed to read this, as I’ve also been having some mixed feelings towards the hobby. Hobbying should be a fun pastime, when there is extra time and money. But I find myself going more frequently, trying to find the next best thing. No matter how many unicorns we encounter, there seems to be this need to find the next one.

Like anything in life I guess, too much of something tends to lead to boredom, even pussy

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

It’s basically the question of is it a hobby or a habit

 

[Wu-Tang-Lan]

It’s basically the question of is it a hobby or a habit

True, it's a nice habit if u can afford it, I mean who doesn't like getting laid. But the folks that BB, that's Russian roulette

 

[sy barite]

Thanks for sharing. I've been doing this since I was 19, I'm 60. In all that time, I have told myself I was quitting a few times...but that itch. Usually what prompted me to quit were feelings like those you've described.

I could certainly be fooling myself, but over the decades I've convinced myself that I can tell the difference between women who are unwillingly in this line of work and those who are comfortable with the choice. It's not always a bright line --after all where there are human beings there is nuance--but most of the time, I still think I get it right. I am lucky that even at 19, I have always been attracted to women in their mid 30s or older and have had a generous share of luck convincing women to fuck without resorting to payment. That has tended to cut down on the chance that I'm dealing with someone who is a victim of her own immaturity.

Good luck with choice. I hope you find satisfaction and fulfillment.

 

[not impressed]

This would bother me very much if I knew/felt a girl was forced into this. I have stayed away from a couple places where this has been suggested....
However, I have met many who are not... They make great money (better than many of us), some really enjoy it.
Ask some of the girls how hard they had to work for a fraction of the money back home.

I think the one's who truly hate the work leave and find something else to do. They can only pull off the act for so long.

Just imagine as a man being able to do this for a living . Giving out happy endings for women in need 100 k + ,tax free , working at our leisure, the world would be a different place and we would never look forward to retirement or marriage or kids

 

[peaceofmind]

Just imagine as a man being able to do this for a living . Giving out happy endings for women in need 100 k + ,tax free , working at our leisure, the world would be a different place and we would never look forward to retirement or marriage or kids

Everything sounds fine and dandy when viewed through the male lens .

 

[Mav]

I wish you the best. I've been there myself, more than once.

There certainly are lots of times this "hobby" doesn't feel like a hobby anymore. Kudos to you for knowing yourself and trusting your feelings and pulling back.

After a rejuvenation of sorts for myself, I have lost the fun of the constant search for something that I dont even know what it is that I am looking for. Sticking to my few favs now, and thats it.

Cheers

 

[peaceofmind]

I wish you the best. I've been there myself, more than once.

There certainly are lots of times this "hobby" doesn't feel like a hobby anymore. Kudos to you for knowing yourself and trusting your feelings and pulling back.

After a rejuvenation of sorts for myself, I have lost the fun of the constant search for something that I dont even know what it is that I am looking for. Sticking to my few favs now, and thats it.

Cheers

How do you settle on your faves? As in how do you settle on the qualities that matter to you. Each time there's a new experience with a new girl (or each time the mind tells you it's craving to feel something "different"), do you still end up gravitating back towards your faves?

I feel I'm at that earlier stage of the journey where the mind itself doesn't know what it's looking for.

 

[not impressed]

I wish you the best. I've been there myself, more than once.

There certainly are lots of times this "hobby" doesn't feel like a hobby anymore. Kudos to you for knowing yourself and trusting your feelings and pulling back.

After a rejuvenation of sorts for myself, I have lost the fun of the constant search for something that I dont even know what it is that I am looking for. Sticking to my few favs now, and thats it.

Cheers

I found what I was thought I looking for
Many times , but , never repeated more than a few times .. was disgusted in myself, like heroin , it takes your soul

 

[sinistarglobal]

I wish you the best. I've been there myself, more than once.

There certainly are lots of times this "hobby" doesn't feel like a hobby anymore. Kudos to you for knowing yourself and trusting your feelings and pulling back.

After a rejuvenation of sorts for myself, I have lost the fun of the constant search for something that I dont even know what it is that I am looking for. Sticking to my few favs now, and thats it.

Cheers

Sticking to a few fav's rather than trying to find the unicorn is likely the key for most of us. We are not perfect and neither are the ladies... especially when they "age out". The on'e we repeat with multiple times are often the ladies we share the most chemistry with. Might not be the prettiest, or youngest, but the one's we click with the most.