Client temperment

[runners.wife]

Energy workers, is it important or necessary for you to know the temperment of a client prior to doing your work?

In other words, if I were to refer a client to you, but I felt this person was full of negative energy, is this something that I should tell you or would rather decide/find this out for yourself?

If someone has a 'serious' illness, is it obvious that he would be filled with negative energy?

 

[hi_my_name_is_michelle]

Client temperment

Energy workers, is it important or necessary for you to know the temperment of a client prior to doing your work?

in my experience, that could be a hinderance, depending on how much info is divulged. i like to find things out for myself.

 

[Pompal 09.]

If the client was full of negative energy, I'm not sure I would want to work on them. Isn't that awful? Can't help it. There are some people I just don't want to work on and icky sticky negative energy people fall into that category.

As far as your second question, some people with VERY serious illnesses radiate the most blissful energy. Illness can be a strong lesson about our short stay on the planet and the importance of making every second count. Of course, it depends on the person, but I wouldn't say that just because a client has a serious illness, that automatically implies they are filled with negative energy at all.

 

[Disney Girl]

I suppose it would all depend on the type of "negative energy".

While I'd like to say it doesn't matter, sometimes it does. I've dealt with all types of clients, and the energy
they carry is what it is. I've had one or two who did have
a weird vibe from time to time. They never came back however, so I didn't really have to worry about it. Generally speaking, I'm tuned in enough to "pickup" the signals before a new person comes in. So, unless another
practitioner choses to fill me in first, I go with my own sense of the new clients who make appointments with me.

I've worked on those who were very close to death, and their energy was so light-filled it was incredible. In those cases it was truely a gift to have been part of the send-off
they recieved before moving on. One of these was my father, and I could sense/feel the presence of others waiting for him, all set to throw their "welcome party" once he went "home". The light was already there in the room for a few days before he finally passed. He was more than ready to leave & wanted to go, so for him the time was right. He was at peace, though is still very much missed.
(It will be 4 years ago this fall.)

 

[Nima]

I wouldn't find it necessary for you to share that information with me, however, I do appreciate it when a colleague who refers a client to me lets me know before the client contacts me, just to be nice.

Each person's experience with another is unique. So it wouldn't necessarily follow that your experience of this person's energy would be the same as the therapist you refer him/her to. Unless this client has acted inappropriately or you sense they may potentially cause harm (in which case, I assume you wouldn't refer this client out anyway), I see no reason to share your experiential information with the other therapist.

 

[Punk Rock]

or you sense they may potentially cause harm ...

This was the reason for my question. Perhaps I'm mistaken, but I view energy workers as more sensitive energetically than I myself. I wouldn't want to subject a therapist to a person who drains me. OTOH, perhaps energy workers are more adept at protecting themselves? I dunno.
That's why I came here t001

I really appreciate y'all educating me in this modality. Book-learning it is one thing; you've experienced it and that is a big help.

 

[aeroqueen]

Specifically, what then are you concerned about in regard to a client causing harm ? Do you mean physically or energetically ?

On an energetic level, there are those who simply tend to drain others in an attempt to "fill themselves up" and it's pretty much unintentional. They are simply needy types, who probably have gone through their lives feeling that they never got the nurturing they should have had. Some of them are the poor, pitiful me variety, and feel sorry for themselves.

Then we have the other types: Who are out for everything they can get, they will purposely suck the life out of others,
and take whatever they can get. Pretty much your basic "energetic vampire". I don't generally consider most of them dangerous per say. But there are more rare predatory versions on the theme, so to speak. They would require alot more energetic shielding, if one was willing to work with them in the first place.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Client temperment

Energy workers, is it important or necessary for you to know the temperment of a client prior to doing your work?

No...I would rather go into a session with a completely open mind and heart. If I were prepped about a so called "negative" person, I would not be completely open, I'd be somewhat tainted.

Experience has taught me that each of us interact with people differently. Just because I may view a client as extremely draining, doesn't mean another therapist will and vice versa. I always feel like these people who present challenges are meant to cross our path for a reason.

When I used to work as a fitness trainer/instructor at an all women's facility, the staff would funnel all the "difficult ladies" in my direction. LOL

I feel the same way about meeting new people in general. I'd rather form my own opinions.

 

[Faree Imaan]

Specifically, what then are you concerned about in regard to a client causing harm ? Do you mean physically or energetically ?

energetically.

Most adults can usually control physical anger, but are oblivious to angry energy and the effect it has on people.

 

[Gray area]

Specifically, what then are you concerned about in regard to a client causing harm ? Do you mean physically or energetically ?

energetically.

Most adults can usually control physical anger, but are oblivious to angry energy and the effect it has on people.

Don't worry about it. We are trained to protect ourselves energetically, and prepare adequately prior to each session. The longer I've been doing this, the less I "pick up" from clients. I suppose that an additional piece of advice for you then is to perhaps refer this client to someone who has been practicing for at least a year or two.

I was more referring to "harm" in the way of physical, mental, emotional abuse. If that is of no concern, don't worry about it.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I have an example of my perspective, sort of in reverse.

I had been working with one client for many months before I decided to refer out. In short, over a period of months, I had allowed this client's lack of participation in their own well-being get to me enough so that I felt that I was ineffective as their practitioner.

So, I referred out to another therapist - an asian bodywork therapies practitioner. I had a real hard time with NOT giving this therapist (who is also a friend) my opinions and just said that I thought the asian bodywork might be the piece this particular client needed to heal...which is the truth - just not all of it.

As it turns out, it was a match made in heaven. The therapist's findings were very similar to mine but this client's behavior and energy was not effecting the therapist, like it was me. I'm so grateful that I kept my trap shut because in the end it is about the client.

 

[Lucie [we can be heroes]]

Why assign a judgment value on someones energy?
If a therapist and client are not compatible, why not leave it at that.
It is a little egotistical to do otherwise, don't you think?

 

[look]

It is extremely important in all that we do, as bodyworkers & otherwise to use discernment, which is different than
"judgement", implying good or bad.

It's a fine line, which as practitioners, everyone of us is wise to keep in mind. Whether we do it consciously or unconsciously is a matter of our personal awareness.

When it comes to being in tune with our clients, we all use a certain level of intuition, and knowledge. At times we will make a judgement as to someone's health & wellbeing or lack of it. (that is no different than a doctor or other healthcare practitioner would do) Our attitude & temperment, as well as theirs, either meshes well or it doesn't. It's the same with expectations.

Many practitioners can see if their clients would make life-changes, (treating themselves better, getting more rest, losing weight, getting in shape, etc.) that their health & wellbeing would be better served. However, those choices are in their hands & not ours. If we can help them along the path to make more positive shifts, then we are being of service to those people. If, on the other hand, they choose to continue abusing themselves with alcohol, drugs or smoking, etc., and the practitioner chooses not to work with that client any longer it is the practitioner's decision, and one which may better serve both individuals.

Choosing to be of service to our own wellbeing is not a bad thing, and may well be a matter of self-preservation on many levels, IMHO.

 

[Leslie J]

Nice reply, thank you.